UPDATE!
i pulled my hair out so i did the following
Added my neighbour WAN to the (local) firewall rules
and reset the phone to factory reset at his house…
works first try.
now i am back at home plug it in and it also works
so now i am confused… so local (on the same network doesnt work) but in a different lan it does 
but all is fine now even after a factory reset
i want to thank you all for your time and patience @idho0618 @arielgrin @ashcortech